One of the first things a person fears about getting sober is boredom. Their preconceived notion that they will never have fun again keeps many people from seeking treatment. It’s no surprise that they feel this way considering that our culture equates fun with drinking or drugs. So, is it possible to have fun sober? The answer is yes. Millions of people do it every day. The truth is, the things you do while drinking are self-destructive patterns of behavior that will not end well.
Are You Afraid Sobriety Will be Boring?
The trick to remaining sober is to redefine your idea of a good time. Rather than focusing on what you may be missing, think about all the hangovers you won’t have to deal with. You wasted many evenings being drunk and wasted most of the next day trying to recover. Nothing fun about that.
If you drink and drive, then spend the night in jail because you were caught, that’s seriously boring. Not to mention the fines, insurance increases, revoked license, criminal record, and embarrassment you’ll probably have to deal with. So, maybe a sober life is something to consider.
Life as a sober person has many rewards. Think back to the days before you started drinking. You found ways to have fun, and your memories of those days are something you’ll cherish. As a sober person, you’ll learn to once again take pleasure in the small things and find ways to enjoy each day.
Can You Have Fun Sober? Here Are a Few Suggestions
- Take a new look at old interests. Some of the things you did before alcohol or drugs came into your life are still there. Did you love to dance? Walk on the beach? Listen to or play music? Paint? Rekindle your interest in these activities without getting high first. Look for sober alternatives to continue these interests. Instead of going to a bar to hear music and dance, try a coffee-house or sober dance club.
- Explore new interests. If you are worried about being bored, find creative ways to fill your time and keep your mind off of partying. Learn to play an instrument. Take a few classes to further your education. Try a new hobby.
- Expand your sober community. You can have fun sober and it is easier when you have a group of like-minded people to share activities with. So surround yourself with new, sober friends through local meetings, alumni events from your treatment facility, community events that don’t promote alcohol, or through support groups in your area.
- Take time to take care of you. Having fun doesn’t always have to mean spending time in a noisy, exciting venue. Learning to spend quality time alone is a milestone in your recovery. Find ways to spend some quiet time reading, painting, working a puzzle, watching a movie, the choices are endless.
- Do some traveling. Traveling doesn’t have to involve a grand, expensive excursion. Visit areas of your city that you’ve never seen. Have a picnic in the countryside. Go hiking. Experiencing new sights and sounds can be rejuvenating.
The key to having fun is to break out of your comfort zone. Do it gradually to avoid becoming overwhelmed. Seeing the world through sober eyes can be a little scary at first. Naturally, you’re concerned about facing the challenges. So, ease yourself into new experiences one step at a time.
What to Do if You Relapse
Reinventing your life won’t be easy. In fact, many people have trouble adjusting and relapse within a few weeks or months after leaving rehab. However, a relapse doesn’t mean that you failed at living a sober life. If you relapse, don’t give up. Contact us at Awakenings Rehabilitation right away. A different treatment approach could be all you need to get back on the path to sobriety.
recoverymonth.gov/events – Protecting Sobriety with the Science of Safety
verywellmind.com – 8 Tips for Staying Clean and Sober